You job is not easy. And it probably won't get easier. But can I let you in on one little secret?
...K, thanks.
When a woman is hurting, or comes to you with a problem, she doesn't want you to come up with a million ways to fix it. She wants you to comfort her, to empathize with her. She is telling you not because you are the only person on earth who knows enough to fix it, but because she needs someone to listen. If she shoots down the "fix-it" ideas you present, it's probably because she's not ready to hear them, nor does she want to.
Yes, I know. It ridiculous. But we're not asking you to fix that either. Just preparing you for the next time this situation presents itself to you. You're welcome and have a lovely
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7 comments:
loooooooooove this! so so so true! hubby and i have already had to discuss this a few times. :) the words, "just hold me" tend to come out of my mouth. :) oops!
ah, so true. why are men hardwired to FIX everything? Hubs and I have this conversation at LEAST once a month- when I just want to vent. I don't want him trying to solve my every problem! Just listen (and get mad at the lady who stole my shopping cart- or the co-worker who went out and bought the SAME piece of jewelry that I just said I had my eye on!) Why is this so difficult?!!! I looove this post!
men can't help it...they are just born to think they can "fix" anything!
aww does someone need a hug?? *hug!* boys are silly. ;)
haha thanks S! Just had to explain this to Z yesterday! Gotta love 'em, but boy is it funny the differences between us sometimes! :)
TOTALLY agree...
Definitely true! My husband always thinks that when I need to talk because I'm upset, that I'm looking for him to fix it!
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